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Yes. And many of the changes are undoubtedly for the better. People (men mostly) who have long abused their power need to be taken to task and punished accordingly.
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I was on track to retire as a Navy Captain about now. In 2011, I didn't like how my son was behaving and the now-ex had essentially stopped parenting. I retired the next year which was the earliest I could punch out. From 2012 until he graduated HS in 2018, my focus was totally on him. We talked every afternoon about homework, school, life, etc. After about a year, he opened up and our talks got better. At 16, we sat down and put together a plan for college and all the things he needed to do and the pitfalls he needed to avoid. There were setbacks but more progress, mostly from what he learned from the setbacks. I taught him to respect women and how to be a gentleman without being overly patronizing. Lots of trial and error but I am so immensely proud of the person he has become. He'll turn 21 this October and I plan on flying out to MD so he can buy me a beer in downtown Annapolis.
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It reads like a Find and Replace of Frederic Wertham's Seduction of the Innocent.
Toxic masculinity is real and serious problem, but blaming it on the culture of the moment reeks of excusing behavior that comes from a deeper and more timeless place. This all existed long before Twitter. |
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It is as simple as this and as hard as this.
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Agreed, but it does not need to be a pathology to be confusing/frustrating/scary. Someone to help unwind it can be a benefit.
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Ask Liz. Apparently, it's everywhere....
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I believe she pointed out that many students are so fearful of speaking because they've been picked on, ridiculed (bullied), etc they're afraid to have a person to person conversation. Her teacher told me the entire class then spent the rest of the period discussing and almost all of them were in agreement and shared their own stories. This is an AP English class. For another take/perspective on things, here's another read, this time from the NY Times: Here's another angle on things: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/02/20/e...gh-school.html |
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I read the article, but didn't have the time to give it detailed attention and thought, but I recognized many of the same issues I (probably most of us) confronted in our late teens through 20's. Our young men and women reflect a lot what we give them as parents and to a lesser extent but often as importantly close associates (teachers, friends, etc). I think we have to use care painting an entire population with a single brush. Bill - my older son is same age (21 in December) and I'm pleased, maybe even a little surprised at what a responsible, self confident, and even gentle young man he's become. He's certainly a better man than I was at his age (even though I was a Navy midshipman). |
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I have an 8yr old boy and a 10yr old girl.
What they learn on the playground is shocking. My son came home one day and asked if it was 'bad to be gay' - clearly this is an insult being hurtled around on the playground all the time (like when I was a kid). My wife and I are very left leaning and have coached our kids to be accepting of all people regardless of gender/sexual orientation/race/ability and yet my boy is pressured to make these jokes - it makes me angry that we haven't advanced beyond this. What was illuminating was when we discussed this with him, and asked if he knew that a number of our friends who are the same sex and live together are actually 'gay'. I know it helped, but his reaction of surprise was both interesting and kinda sad. Mostly interesting, because he's a smart kid and will learn oe day! |
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Middle school girls are far more mean/cruel than boys
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In general, I would concur.
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I did read the whole article and don’t think the author missed a single morsel of stereotypical man hate. Last edited by HenryA; 02-22-2020 at 09:12 PM. |
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