For those keeping score, I put the 17-degree 120 mm stem on and angled the bar like this.
Not sure if the stem is going to be too low for me. I can always switch back to the 6-degree stem if need be.
With this setup I've basically decided to compromise. It feels great on the hoods when seated, and where I complained before about the hoods feeling too high when out of the saddle, tonight I found I could live with it.
But in the drops I need to arch my hands up to reach the brake and the thumbshifter. Since I don't race and I only sprint in the drops on solo rides for fun, I'm thinking I can live with this.
For now, anyway. I welcome all critiques and suggestions. For example, can anyone link to a bar with a "better bend"?